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A parent’s reflection on the road to an ASD diagnosis for their child

A parent’s reflection on the road to an ASD diagnosis for their child

Sad Girl At Christmas

Below is an account of a parent’s story, in their own words, just the names have been changed for privacy reasons. It would be interesting to read about what other parents have been through.

At 18 months of age, a concerning sign that something was wrong occurred. Janet recounts how frightening it was watching her son run head first into walls repeatedly, despite hurting himself. A few other tell-tale signs that indicated a problem were that he was unable to crawl properly and his milestones were generally behind.

 At 20 months of age, Janet took her son overseas to her home country. Upon arriving she took him to see a psychologist because at that point, she was certain something was not right. The Psychologist said that John was normal and that there was nothing wrong with him, however, Janet was not convinced. By this point her son was becoming aggressive and frustrated very easily and as a result he was hitting and kicking. After returning home to Australia a community health nurse examined John. After Janet explained his eating, sleep patterns and behaviors the Nurse agreed that he needed to be taken to a paediatrician. What followed was a series of back and forth with various health care professionals, each opinion different from the next, Janet getting no closer to having her questions answered or concerns identified.

Finally, John was taken to a well-known psychologist while travelling overseas and within 10 minutes he was diagnosed with having high functioning, mild, Autism Spectrum Disorder. Janet recounts her initial reaction to learning her son’s diagnosis was that it was not mild for her, however, while it was harshly confronting to hear that her son had a disorder it was a relief to receive closure. Unfortunately, this meant that John would have to be diagnosed again in Australia, but at this point Janet was relieved to have gotten some answers. “In a moment the world stopped, it became dark” Janet confesses, as after her son’s initial diagnosis the reality was difficult to process. In the coming months after John’s diagnosis Janet admits she was very angry and suffered from stress, leading her to see a psychologist for a year which aided the anxiety she suffered from. Dealing with challenges relating to her sons ASD diagnosis was very difficult, Janet compares the communication barrier to trying to communicate with someone speaking a different language.

 The most challenging part of the journey for Janet was the huge gap in receptive language, as prior to his diagnosis John was not able to express himself or string together sentences. The outpour of support from Janet’s parents and extended family was a comfort in the whirlwind of John’s diagnosis. “The way they loved him did not change at all,” she said, mentioning that within this process she educated her family regarding ASD in the hope that they would be able to better understand John and in turn help with the management of his condition. However, Janet shed light on initially keeping the diagnosis from some relatives, as she believed that this would have been too stressful to handle in the first few months after diagnosis. “People with ASD think differently, it opened a door” stated Janet, going on to say that it helped her to understand the way that others think. Within the process of the diagnosis for her son, it also allowed her husband to reflect on his own childhood. “He realised that he had many symptoms of Asperger’s” she said, stating that he now realizes the reason behind his sensory issues and why he was not interested in being social or having many friends. He believes he can understand his son on a different level, as he acknowledges he is on the spectrum himself.

The advice Janet offers to other parents is to trust your instincts and seek multiple opinions. She believes all medical practitioners operate differently some being ‘too relaxed’ and others believing a child has to have ‘all of the symptoms, and tick all boxes’ in order to justify an ASD assessment. It may also be beneficial to have your child’s therapists work together as a team and develop a short and long term plan, syncing therapies so that your child can fully benefit from each session. Outreach visits to kinder or school are also of benefit as this allowed the therapist to see her son ‘in action’. Janet’s final word of advice was that things will get easier, always make expectations beyond your child’s ability and never lose hope.